How to Learn to Forgive People

Has anybody ever hurt you? Have you been betrayed?

Are there people in your life that you need to forgive? Do you realise that anger can cause dis-ease? We can heal ourselves naturally. We do not need others in order to do some natural healing for ourselves.

My best friend recently hurt me. It is a difficult time. Not because of what she has done but because of how I now need to react. There is always an easy and a hard way to do something…

The easy way would be to get upset and confront her with all my emotions. The hard way is to react with love and acceptance and realise that all actions come from a place of love or fear.

The following is a little story I live by. It is an excerpt from a book called “Conversations with God”:

Imagine our souls as little bubbles. We are all in gathered together in “heaven”. We are all blissfully happy. Then there comes a time for us to start planning our next life. One little soul pipes up,

“I need to learn the lesson of forgiveness. I need someone to come and do something that I can forgive”

The other little souls applaud his courage but nobody steps forward.

“Come on guys, I can’t learn this without someone doing something to me that I need to forgive.”

Still nobody comes forward. They all love each other so much and it is very hard to imagine hurting one of them. Finally, a little soul steps up.

“I’ll do it. I’ll come and do something in order for you to learn your lesson. But there is one condition...”

“Anything”, says the first soul. “Promise me that when I show up to do this horrid thing to you that you will remember that you asked me to do this…”

I love that story and it helps me to understand a lot.

I thank my friend for coming to teach me this lesson of forgiveness.

If I react the old way, I would have learnt nothing and she would have to repeat her actions in order to honour our sacred agreement.

I keep the following in mind too:

I forgive myself- I release the past.

I forgive others- I release myself.

What a lovely place to come to learn. We are all very fortunate.